Serve Your Family

…in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

– Philippians 2:3

I love it when things feel new. Not just the feeling of a new art pad, a new pen, or even a new project, but also new opportunities. There is something about those moments in life when something opens up and there is a chance for something to change. When things feel fresh and there is nothing stopping you from an excitement over what can happen next.

These feelings come for me often at new years. I like to take a moment and think back on the previous year, and then think forward on what the next year could be, then make some plans and set some goals. In thinking about this for 2019, and when it comes to my family, there is one overarching goal that I’m setting for myself that I want to encourage others, specifically other husbands and fathers, to consider for their own homes.

I want to serve my family better.

I want this year to be marked by serving my family in such a way that I see their needs met, their calling’s fulfilled, their spiritual growth, their confidence built, their strength developed, their obstacles removed, and overall our family more united around a single mission of glorifying God.

Now that is a big goal! I already know I will not be perfect in keeping it, because it is not a new goal in my life. I already made this one in 2018, and most certainly have failed at it many times. However, the goal for 2019 is not to be perfect at it, but to do it better. To take it one day at a time, one moment at a time, and from opportunity to opportunity, show my family Christ.

Now, this goal of service will flesh itself out in many different ways. From foot rubs to family devotions, from doing chores to building deeper connections, from providing resources to having date nights, to playing dolls and Legos. However, serving everyone like this can quickly lose its focus if there is not a clear target that everyone is aiming towards. Without direction, serving can devolve into just a list of purposeless tasks that you have to wade through. That is just one of the reasons I’m thankful that my family has a mission statement to give us that clear goal we are all working towards.

The Collins family exists to reflect God’s glory, through Christ, to each other and to the world.

That is why my family is here! So as a husband and father, my service to my wife and family should always be a service to aid them to that one goal. I want my family united in that mission! It is a Matthew 5:14-16 mission:

You are the light of the world. A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. Nor do people light a lamp and put it under a basket, but on a stand, and it gives light to all in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.

Men, husbands, if you do not have a clear vision and mission for your family, get with your wife and prayerfully seek that out! Then seek to serve your family to help them all achieve that mission.

Once you have a unified target, one of the simplest things we can do is ask our wives (and your kids too) some simple questions. Here are some to help us get started:

  • What do you believe God is calling you to?

  • What is something you never have time for?

  • What is a challenge you face regularly?

  • What are sins that I can help you fight?

  • What is something I can pray for you about?

Then look for ways to choose to serve them in accomplishing their goals. Look for ways to have the mind of Christ.

Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves. Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. – Philippians 2:3-4

Remember, Christ gave up the glory of heaven to serve his bride, the church. We are called to love our wives and families the same. So let us show them Christ, as we fully rely on him to supply what we need to count them as more significant than ourselves!

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